It seems today everyone is wondering what skills need developed to become highly effective leaders.
If you are in a leadership role where you are helping to develop a team, it is essential for you to enhance your listening and question skills. By taking these skills to the next level, you will rapidly propel your team towards success.
In today's Fast Company article: "How to Ask — And Listen — Like You Mean It" written by Kevin Kashman, it is discussed how listening and questioning provide a loop for a continuously growing conversation. Kashman writes that in order to deepen the level of questioning, you need to deepen the level of listening–resulting in trust, collaboration, and co-creating.
A requirement for innovation is the ability to develop creative solutions. As a leader, your team is full of these solutions, you just need to help bring them to the surface.
What you need to do to ask the 'right' questions:
1. Ask open ended questions. What are open ended questions? Keep in mind that any question that requires more than a 'yes' or 'no' response is considered an open ended question. These types of questions invoke thinking and creativity to respond.
2. Probe deeper by layering questions. Hold yourself back from responding to their answer. Instead, ask another open ended question. Sometimes, the creativity is down deep and needs several questions to bring it into the open.
3. Be open. When your team begins talking, don't stop the creativity by being judgmental. Approach this brainstorming with openness and possibility. Nothing is wrong at this point or in need of critiquing. Be curious about who is speaking and continue the questioning process.
Asking these fabulous questions are pointless if you are not listening for the responses. This is often the most difficult skill to develop, requiring you to slow your mind and focus on who is speaking. Active listening requires discipline for the listener.
What you need to do to actively listen:
1. Take off your expert hat. When you are in the role of a listener, you are not an expert. This is perhaps the hardest part of the listening process, but the most important. If you are always in the role of an expert, your team will be afraid to share. Don't provide information or feedback until you pause for a minute or two after the person is finished talking.
2. Keep frustration at bay. Often when we are in a listening role it is easy to get frustrated or bored with the person who is talking. You may find yourself thinking of how you could do it right or even about all of the items on your to do list. Slow down and really focus on what is being said.
3. Listen to what is not being said. Sometimes there is information behind the response. When you are listening, pay attention to what is behind the words. This means observing body language and reactions. When you are able to bring those to the surface–that is when the magic happens.
To become the best leader possible, enhancing your listening and questioning skills is a must. Whether you want to practice with family members or you need to enroll in a workshop that teaches these skills, the rewards are worth it.
How about you? Do you have someone in your life that has developed these skills? Notice the level of conversation that occurs with these individuals.
Share below your experience–we'd love to hear.