Our dads are important leaders in our families. Our culture has provided a number of support opportunities for moms to take a break, express pent up emotions in healthy ways, and openly seek coping mechanisms for stress, all deservedly so. Yet occasionally, our dads might be a bit of an afterthought. How do we honor dad’s role in our family in a way that works for him and gives him opportunities to healthily blow off steam?
Statically speaking, the majority of men will make a series of lifestyle changes that will positively impact their health after they’ve become a father. Creating a family schedule for simplicity often means dads partake in more balanced and regular meals. Fathers tend be more physically active; however, family households are also experiencing a greater balance in child-rearing tasks across moms and dads. This balancecan have many positive influences on the family unit and also put fathers in a position of having to juggle many tasks at once.
The good news for dads is that with increased parenting and other household tasks being added to his plate, the value of fathers has also increased. Although parental tasks were not included in this list below, Insure.com’s annual Father’s Day Index values dad’s many other efforts at $25,709 per year. To get to this number, common household tasks are Index based on theBureau of Labor Statistics for specific tasks from plumbing, to coaching sport teams, to chauffeuring. This number is also based on working dads rather than stay-at-home fathers. Regardless, this number should help put dad’s contributions to the family into perspective.
The Father’s Day Index 2015
|Dad’s job||BLS occupation||Hours per week||Weeks per year||Mean hourly
|Family finances||Accountants and auditors||0.5||52||$30.90||$803|
|Plumber||Pipelayers, plumbers, pipefitters, and steamfitters||2||3||$30.53||$183|
|Helping with homework||Other teachers and instructors||10||40||$27.40||$10,960|
|Coaching a team||Athletes, coaches, umpires, and related workers||4||10||$24.35||$974|
|Handyman||Maintenance and repair workers, general||8||6||$20.30||$974|
|Car maintenance||Automotive service technicians and mechanics||2||10||$18.43||$369|
|Assembly of toys, bookshelves, etc.||Miscellaneous assemblers and fabricators||3||10||$15.83||$475|
|Pest removal (spiders, gross bugs)||Pest control workers||1||4||$16.33||$65|
|Scout leader||Recreation and fitness workers||5||10||$17.90||$895|
|Driving||Taxi drivers and chauffeurs||9||52||$15.23||$7,125|
|Moving furniture||Laborers and freight, stock, and material movers, hand||2||3||$13.65||$82|
|Mowing the lawn, landscaping, snow removal||Grounds Maintenance Workers||2||52||$11.35||$1,180|
Dad’s 2015 value: $25,709
Wage source: Bureau of Labor Statistics
This Father’s Day we also wanted to know what makes dads feel valued. We asked three popular dad bloggers, and their answers pointed away from fancy gifts and exotic celebrations and toward everyday stuff:
“It’s just knowing I’m providing for them, everything from their physical to emotional needs,” says Lin, creator of The Busy Dad Blog. it’s often as simple as seeing the household operate as it should or watching his 12-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter play happily outside. On Father’s Day, Lin likes to eat and relax with his family and take the day off from worrying.
“I grew up without my father and so I wanted to do things differently for my family,” says Fred Goodall, founder of Mocha Dad, a website focused on fatherhood, and is passionate about parenting and encouraging men to become better dads and husbands.Goodall still carries in his wallet a laminated card his 6-year-old son made a few years ago in preschool. As for celebrating on Father’s Day, each year he and his wife and kids get their photo taken wearing matching T-shirts. He also makes up a questionnaire and asks his kids to fill it out. He saves their hand-written answers from year to year.
“What makes me feel valued is when they do the right thing when no one’s looking. It shows the things you drive home with them stick, they’re learning while they’re watching you.” Says blogger Trey Burley, founder of parenting website Daddy Mojo. Burley says his favorite way to spend Father’s Day is to go out to breakfast with the family at a nice bagel place and stop by the farmer’s market for fresh fruit.
With dads putting forth so much important energy to do their part to keep households running smoothly, doesn’t dad deserve some special thanks for Father’s Day? You might be surprised to learn that the things that would make dad most happy this Father’s Day is time with his family over expensive gifts. It makes perfect sense that with schedules getting busier for everyone that our fathers crave a little quality with the families they work so hard for. Make extra time this Father’s Day to let the dad in your life know the value you place on him is priceless.