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How to Keep Going after Failure

Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going. – Yasmin Mogahed

When you fail and hurt, it sure seems hard to get back up. Yet, isn’t failure simply part of the game of life?

Sometimes we fail forward, sometimes we fail backward. It actually shows that you are engaged in your life and willing to put yourself out there.  When you’re feeling like the failure is getting the best of you, here are some steps to keep in mind that might help you get back on track:

  1. Ask yourself, what caused you to fail? Get to the root of the problem. Understand this part and make a plan to overcome this roadblock the next time.
  2. Seek guidance and support. Ask experts in the field, read books, search the internet, talk about your experience with your closest friends/people you can trust. Have an open conversation and be willing to listen. If your ears are closed off, you won’t set yourself up for success.
  3. Write out your goals and post them for you to see every single day. You can even break these large goals into smaller goals and smaller goals into step by steps. This will help you keep your mind focused and not wander off the path.
  4. Check in with yourself daily. Ask yourself how are you doing? Do you envision success or do you envision being stuck? Your mind can rob you of negative thoughts if you allow it. Keep going! You can achieve most anything you put your mind to.

Now is your chance to rebuild, start new, and refresh. We learn as we go and that doesn’t make us any less valuable than the day before. Instead that makes us even more valuable because we have learned more about ourselves.

When you know yourself even better, you can use your strengths to be the best person you can be.

Schedule a complimentary chat with Joy to help you get back on track!

Jitters Going Back to School?

It is a new type of school year for everyone, and that is bringing uncertainty to all ages. Typically there are some jitters going back to school, are we’re all well aware that this year will be like no other.

Below are some tips that may be helpful for your family as you all ease into this school transition. These will apply if your student is being homeschooled, learning virtually, or attending in person classes.

  1. Before your child starts school, have an honest conversation with them about what to expect. It will help them make the transition.
  2. Let your child vent. Everybody needs somebody who is their sounding board. Let them talk about what is on their mind and be sure to take the time to actively listen. Be there for them and guide them in their thinking. Let them know everything will be okay and that you believe this decision is the best for them. Be consistent in your reminders as they adjust to their new normal.
  3. Let your child personalize their space and supplies. Let your student pick out their new supplies and decorate their learning space if possible. The in person class might be different vs. learning at home, and make a learning space in your home for them to complete their work will support them. Allow them to decorate this space instead. Having a meaningful space will encourage learning.
  4. Places. Things. These offer foundational support:
    1. Your student needs people in their life who believes in them, is there to offer them a safe space to vent, and gently guides them whenever possible.
    2. Your student needs places to feel supported. Their environment or learning space is more important than ever. Let them design it, invest in furniture that supports their learning posture, and so what if they want to paint the walls – they can always be repainted at some time.
    3. The ‘things’ for the student is just that, their favorite ‘thing’. Whether it be a poster, book, toy, picture, etc – have the ‘thing’ in their space that they enjoy and that relaxes them.
  5. Have a daily routine will help and encourage positive behavior. Take time out to enjoy the outdoors and breathe in fresh air. Spend time together doing something fun that you both enjoy.

Take it one day at a time. We are all working with so many unknowns right now. We will get through this together.

Back to the Basics: Handwritten Notes

Take the time to slow down and think about who has been on your mind lately. We are use to communicating with others by sharing url’s, browsing through social media, and reading texts and emails.

However, those communications come and go.

As you’ll see on the image, this is a part of my office wall. It is filled with notes from people who have been meaningful to me over the years. I still reflect on the notes and the relationship with that person.

As another way to reach out, consider writing a handwritten note to the person you are thinking about. This doesn’t have to be difficult. Take in account the following tips when writing.

  • Schedule time to write in your calendar so it happens consistently.
  • Write or type your message. Get out your thoughts and edit your message. This way, when you write the message on the actual card you’re sending, you won’t waste 10 cards in the process.
  • Write with your favorite notecard and pen. This will help you to slow down and think about your handwriting itself. Think about how your writing looks as you go. I’m better off writing notes in the afternoon when my hand has warmed up!  We want others to be able to read it!
  • This may seem obvious, yet make sure you spell the person’s name correctly. It is often easy to forget how to spell somebody’s name without it being in front of you. This could diminish the effort you put into writing your note.
  • Let the person know you genuinely care about them and you are thinking about them.
  • Check out this link for notecards you may enjoy:

Think about these tips as you write your handwritten message. Take your time and have fun with it! Set a goal of 3-5 notes per week and notice what happens!

We would love to hear how this supports you and your relationships. Feel free to comment below.