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How to Keep Going after Failure

Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going. – Yasmin Mogahed

When you fail and hurt, it sure seems hard to get back up. Yet, isn’t failure simply part of the game of life?

Sometimes we fail forward, sometimes we fail backward. It actually shows that you are engaged in your life and willing to put yourself out there.  When you’re feeling like the failure is getting the best of you, here are some steps to keep in mind that might help you get back on track:

  1. Ask yourself, what caused you to fail? Get to the root of the problem. Understand this part and make a plan to overcome this roadblock the next time.
  2. Seek guidance and support. Ask experts in the field, read books, search the internet, talk about your experience with your closest friends/people you can trust. Have an open conversation and be willing to listen. If your ears are closed off, you won’t set yourself up for success.
  3. Write out your goals and post them for you to see every single day. You can even break these large goals into smaller goals and smaller goals into step by steps. This will help you keep your mind focused and not wander off the path.
  4. Check in with yourself daily. Ask yourself how are you doing? Do you envision success or do you envision being stuck? Your mind can rob you of negative thoughts if you allow it. Keep going! You can achieve most anything you put your mind to.

Now is your chance to rebuild, start new, and refresh. We learn as we go and that doesn’t make us any less valuable than the day before. Instead that makes us even more valuable because we have learned more about ourselves.

When you know yourself even better, you can use your strengths to be the best person you can be.

Schedule a complimentary chat with Joy to help you get back on track!

Jitters Going Back to School?

It is a new type of school year for everyone, and that is bringing uncertainty to all ages. Typically there are some jitters going back to school, are we’re all well aware that this year will be like no other.

Below are some tips that may be helpful for your family as you all ease into this school transition. These will apply if your student is being homeschooled, learning virtually, or attending in person classes.

  1. Before your child starts school, have an honest conversation with them about what to expect. It will help them make the transition.
  2. Let your child vent. Everybody needs somebody who is their sounding board. Let them talk about what is on their mind and be sure to take the time to actively listen. Be there for them and guide them in their thinking. Let them know everything will be okay and that you believe this decision is the best for them. Be consistent in your reminders as they adjust to their new normal.
  3. Let your child personalize their space and supplies. Let your student pick out their new supplies and decorate their learning space if possible. The in person class might be different vs. learning at home, and make a learning space in your home for them to complete their work will support them. Allow them to decorate this space instead. Having a meaningful space will encourage learning.
  4. Places. Things. These offer foundational support:
    1. Your student needs people in their life who believes in them, is there to offer them a safe space to vent, and gently guides them whenever possible.
    2. Your student needs places to feel supported. Their environment or learning space is more important than ever. Let them design it, invest in furniture that supports their learning posture, and so what if they want to paint the walls – they can always be repainted at some time.
    3. The ‘things’ for the student is just that, their favorite ‘thing’. Whether it be a poster, book, toy, picture, etc – have the ‘thing’ in their space that they enjoy and that relaxes them.
  5. Have a daily routine will help and encourage positive behavior. Take time out to enjoy the outdoors and breathe in fresh air. Spend time together doing something fun that you both enjoy.

Take it one day at a time. We are all working with so many unknowns right now. We will get through this together.


Message from White Eagle, Hopi indigenous:

“This moment humanity is going through can now be seen as a portal and as a hole.

The decision to fall into the hole or go through the portal is up to you.

If you repent of the problem and consume the news 24 hours a day, with little energy, nervous all the time, with pessimism, you will fall into the hole. But if you take this opportunity to look at yourself, rethink life and death, take care of yourself and others, you will cross the portal.

Take care of your homes, take care of your body. Connect with your spiritual House.

When you are taking care of yourselves, you are taking care of everything else. Do not lose the spiritual dimension of this crisis, have the eagle aspect, that from above, and see the whole; see more broadly.

There is a social demand in this crisis, but there is also a spiritual demand. The two go hand in hand. Without the social dimension, we fall into fanaticism. But without the spiritual dimension, we fall into pessimism and lack of meaning.

You were prepared to go through this crisis. Take your toolbox and use all the tools available to you.

Learn about resistance of the indigenous and African peoples: we have always been and continue to be exterminated. But we still haven’t stopped singing, dancing, lighting a fire and having fun. Don’t feel guilty about being happy during this difficult time.

You do not help at all being sad and without energy. You help if good things emanate from the Universe now. It is through joy that one resists. Also, when the storm passes, each of you will be very important in the reconstruction of this new world.

You need to be well and strong. And, for that, there is no other way than to maintain a beautiful, happy and bright vibration. This has nothing to do with alienation.

This is a resistance strategy. In shamanism, there is a rite of passage called the quest for vision. You spend a few days alone in the forest, without water, without food, without protection. When you cross this portal, you get a new vision of the world, because you have faced your fears, your difficulties …

This is what is asked of you:

Allow yourself to take advantage of this time to perform your vision seeking rituals. What world do you want to build for you? For now, this is what you can do: serenity in the storm. Calm down, pray every day. Establish a routine to meet the sacred every day.

Good things emanate; what you emanate now is the most important thing. And sing, dance, resist through art, joy, faith and love. ”
Resist – Be reborn

Conversations we Need to Lead

I couldn’t resist sharing a recent article I read as it supports my concerns about the approaches we’re currrently taking to protect our people, and what that might mean down the road.

It’s a fairly long article, and I think it will be well worth your time. It speaks to some of the conversations we need to be having, and this could provide a way for you to begin or continue a discussion with the people in your life.

Now more than ever, each of us has a responsibility to make a positive difference; consider choosing something that fits with who you are and your contribution to the world.

heart centered leadership in these times to get us through

What is the ‘one thing’ you’re willing to contribute based on this article, in the way of heart-centered leadership? Please comment on the blog.


I’m in Awe of your Leadership

Calming picture of a woman's hand holding a flower during sunset. Leader"s relaxation tip to calm down during these challenging times

As we navigate our way through the COVID-19 pandemic and the updated April 30th shelter in place in the US, I wanted to reach out and let you know I’ve been thinking of you and sending immense kindness and compassion for your physical and emotional health.

I have spoken with many of you and am so proud of how you’re stepping up as heart-centered leaders in your world, especially during these difficult times:

  • Changing your emotions from that of anger to gratitude.
  • Honoring the reality of this situation that has required you to close your well loved, non-essential business.
  • Communicating the difficult plans and conversations of furloughing some of your valued staff.
  • Pivoting your operations to a 70-80% remote business without missing a beat in servicing your customers.
  • Receiving the positive support of your board members and teams.

I am offering you a gift in all of this: a ‘guided journey’ (5:51) of a relaxation technique that is very effective for resolving any emotional reaction(s) that may be arising from influences or circumstances currently out of your control.


Please listen to this as often as you wish, and feel free to share it.

I am thinking of you and sending you blessings and compassion.

Be well.

The Importance of Executive Coaching for Start-ups

We already know that executive and business coaching holds numerous benefits for those who seek it. Whether this is done to streamline your career, negotiate a career shift or raise your levels of productivity, there is no doubt to how beneficial seeking executive and business coaching can be!

So Many Start-Ups

There are numerous start-up companies and businesses that have recently sprung into the market. Many of these offer similar services and products so what separates the best from the simply good tends to boil down to the finer things.

Executive Coaching for Start-Ups

One of the things that can seriously benefit a start up business, company or organization is executive coaching.

Over the course of this blog, we’re going to elaborate on how this is so.

A Removed Perspective

Many of those involved in starting and running their own start ups are passionate individuals. Further, the startups they are invested in hold much significance in their lives emotionally and otherwise. Though this kind of commitment is great, there are times when one needs to take a step back and view situations more objectively for the greater good of the business.

At times like those, where a director or owner cannot distance themselves from the emotional investment, an executive coach can offer valuable perspective.

Goal Setting and Management

Setting goals is an important part of any business; as is managing and seeing them through. A start-up receiving executive coaching will be supported greatly in the area of goal setting and management.

An executive coach will not only help the start up figure out its priorities and vision for growth. They will also provide support and motivation helping those working for the startup see these goals through.

Early Risk Assessment

Executive coaching can help you identify potential risks, losses and pitfalls a lot earlier in the game than you would without it. This is because the executive coach you work with has likely worked with numerous businesses, start ups and individuals.

They also have a realistic idea of what different markets are like and are informed by way of trends. In other words, they not only help you make the right decisions but also help you to avoid numerous risks by identifying them early.

Team Evolution

Managing a new team can at times be tricky. At the same time, if your team is not getting along it will probably be quite difficult for your upstart to thrive. Similarly, an unhappy team means shoddy work. An executive coach can help streamline team interactions and help with motivation as well as morale. They work with the team evolving them into the happy yet productive force you need to function well and make it big!

Sculpting Leaders

Last but not least. an executive coach will help you sculpt yourself into the right kind of employer, partner or leader.

They will inform you about qualities that will help with your work and interactions and provide guidance. They offer perspective and can help you become more aware of your strengths so you can play on them. They will also alert you to growing edges and professional weaknesses that you could work on to be better. Needless to say, a team with good leadership will get places!


If you’re involved with a start up and feel you could use the extra support getting up on your feet that’s perfectly normal! Better yet, we’ve got you covered! Those looking for executive coaching in Minneapolis can give us a shout or visit our webpage for more on the effective executive, business and career coaching we offer!