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How to Keep Going after Failure

Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going. – Yasmin Mogahed

When you fail and hurt, it sure seems hard to get back up. Yet, isn’t failure simply part of the game of life?

Sometimes we fail forward, sometimes we fail backward. It actually shows that you are engaged in your life and willing to put yourself out there.  When you’re feeling like the failure is getting the best of you, here are some steps to keep in mind that might help you get back on track:

  1. Ask yourself, what caused you to fail? Get to the root of the problem. Understand this part and make a plan to overcome this roadblock the next time.
  2. Seek guidance and support. Ask experts in the field, read books, search the internet, talk about your experience with your closest friends/people you can trust. Have an open conversation and be willing to listen. If your ears are closed off, you won’t set yourself up for success.
  3. Write out your goals and post them for you to see every single day. You can even break these large goals into smaller goals and smaller goals into step by steps. This will help you keep your mind focused and not wander off the path.
  4. Check in with yourself daily. Ask yourself how are you doing? Do you envision success or do you envision being stuck? Your mind can rob you of negative thoughts if you allow it. Keep going! You can achieve most anything you put your mind to.

Now is your chance to rebuild, start new, and refresh. We learn as we go and that doesn’t make us any less valuable than the day before. Instead that makes us even more valuable because we have learned more about ourselves.

When you know yourself even better, you can use your strengths to be the best person you can be.

Schedule a complimentary chat with Joy to help you get back on track!

3 Tips to Help Process our Changed World

Covid 19 takes us back to roots and reminds us of the small things in life that are important. We think long and hard about our next move. As we make adjustments in our life, we might consider these 3 tips to help us process our changed world.

1)     Be who you are. Know who you are and what you stand for. Create a list of your qualities and what makes you unique. Remind yourself every day what is important to you. This will help you to adapt and remain true to yourself, especially during stressful times.  Find your joy, joyfully!

2)     Be there for your people, fully. Make a list of your support group (your inner circle) who are close to you and stay in touch with them. Be especially truthful to these people, so they can be a witness and supportive of what’s happening in your life. Take a moment to send a quick text, pick up the phone, drop them a card in the mail. Connecting with those who are part of your inner circle on a routine basis, will create a more meaningful and enjoyable life. Keep in touch, joyfully!

3)     Focus on the present. We are where we are in the world. Things are how they are and we cannot change what has happened. Let us unite, joyfully! Be in the now and live in the moment, so that you can find ways to enjoy the ride. Today’s world isn’t quite normal to me either, and let’s make the most of it and do what we can to enjoy the life that has been given to us.

I’m in Awe of your Leadership

Calming picture of a woman's hand holding a flower during sunset. Leader"s relaxation tip to calm down during these challenging times

As we navigate our way through the COVID-19 pandemic and the updated April 30th shelter in place in the US, I wanted to reach out and let you know I’ve been thinking of you and sending immense kindness and compassion for your physical and emotional health.

I have spoken with many of you and am so proud of how you’re stepping up as heart-centered leaders in your world, especially during these difficult times:

  • Changing your emotions from that of anger to gratitude.
  • Honoring the reality of this situation that has required you to close your well loved, non-essential business.
  • Communicating the difficult plans and conversations of furloughing some of your valued staff.
  • Pivoting your operations to a 70-80% remote business without missing a beat in servicing your customers.
  • Receiving the positive support of your board members and teams.

I am offering you a gift in all of this: a ‘guided journey’ (5:51) of a relaxation technique that is very effective for resolving any emotional reaction(s) that may be arising from influences or circumstances currently out of your control.

DOWNLOAD GUIDED JOURNEY

Please listen to this as often as you wish, and feel free to share it.

I am thinking of you and sending you blessings and compassion.

Be well.

The Importance of Executive Coaching for Start-ups

We already know that executive and business coaching holds numerous benefits for those who seek it. Whether this is done to streamline your career, negotiate a career shift or raise your levels of productivity, there is no doubt to how beneficial seeking executive and business coaching can be!

So Many Start-Ups

There are numerous start-up companies and businesses that have recently sprung into the market. Many of these offer similar services and products so what separates the best from the simply good tends to boil down to the finer things.

Executive Coaching for Start-Ups

One of the things that can seriously benefit a start up business, company or organization is executive coaching.

Over the course of this blog, we’re going to elaborate on how this is so.

A Removed Perspective

Many of those involved in starting and running their own start ups are passionate individuals. Further, the startups they are invested in hold much significance in their lives emotionally and otherwise. Though this kind of commitment is great, there are times when one needs to take a step back and view situations more objectively for the greater good of the business.

At times like those, where a director or owner cannot distance themselves from the emotional investment, an executive coach can offer valuable perspective.

Goal Setting and Management

Setting goals is an important part of any business; as is managing and seeing them through. A start-up receiving executive coaching will be supported greatly in the area of goal setting and management.

An executive coach will not only help the start up figure out its priorities and vision for growth. They will also provide support and motivation helping those working for the startup see these goals through.

Early Risk Assessment

Executive coaching can help you identify potential risks, losses and pitfalls a lot earlier in the game than you would without it. This is because the executive coach you work with has likely worked with numerous businesses, start ups and individuals.

They also have a realistic idea of what different markets are like and are informed by way of trends. In other words, they not only help you make the right decisions but also help you to avoid numerous risks by identifying them early.

Team Evolution

Managing a new team can at times be tricky. At the same time, if your team is not getting along it will probably be quite difficult for your upstart to thrive. Similarly, an unhappy team means shoddy work. An executive coach can help streamline team interactions and help with motivation as well as morale. They work with the team evolving them into the happy yet productive force you need to function well and make it big!

Sculpting Leaders

Last but not least. an executive coach will help you sculpt yourself into the right kind of employer, partner or leader.

They will inform you about qualities that will help with your work and interactions and provide guidance. They offer perspective and can help you become more aware of your strengths so you can play on them. They will also alert you to growing edges and professional weaknesses that you could work on to be better. Needless to say, a team with good leadership will get places!

Upshot

If you’re involved with a start up and feel you could use the extra support getting up on your feet that’s perfectly normal! Better yet, we’ve got you covered! Those looking for executive coaching in Minneapolis can give us a shout or visit our webpage for more on the effective executive, business and career coaching we offer!

Gratitude and Mindfulness

Gratitude and Mindfulness

Wishing you and yours a very safe and Happy Thanksgiving Holiday

Gratitude – a feeling of thankfulness or appreciation.

Mindfulness – paying attention to the present moment.

I wanted to share a few takeaways from a recent Mindfulness Lecture I attended featuring Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, hosted by the University of Minnesota’s Center for Spirituality & Healing. It seems especially appropriate to share some of those highlights during this week’s Thanksgiving Holiday here in the U.S.

Over 2,000 people were in attendance at this Mindfulness lecture. 10 or even 5 years ago there would not have been a full auditorium.

There is great potential in this mindfulness movement; the time is now.

joyHow much are we really living the life that is ours to live?  We seem to be always trying to get out of this moment to find a better moment; we’re conditioned this way.

I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.
Henry David Thoreau

How many moments do we let slip away?

We can’t stop breathing.  We can’t stop our heart beating. In a very real way, there’s no end to a mindfulness practice.  Breathing is just one way to drop into the fleeting, present moment, as is noticing the beating of your heart.  It’s about the awareness that is an intrinsic part of our being.

We can test our mindfulness throughout the day by asking 3 questions:

1.  What am I doing in this moment?
2.  Is my mind on what I’m doing?
3.  Am I happy in this moment?

Most people polled were doing things halfheartedly; they weren’t fully engaged.  If you can’t be present for yourself how can you be present for another, take in the world or make wise decisions?  It’s not a luxury to create Mindfulness.  It’s an old tradition that is the most sophisticated psychology on the planet.

The more UnPresent you are, the more UnHappy you are.

Now that we’re attached to our mobile devices we’ve become perpetually addicted, it’s like we always want to be somewhere else.  A supercomputer in our purse or pocket, what a concept!  Rather than being mindful we’re looking for that next adrenaline or dopamine hit that seems so satisfying, yet is fleeting.  Having our devices so accessible destroys the depths of conversation because no one is being present.

Your creativity, intuition and imagination are all sitting right inside the multi-dimension of right now.  If we were trained in Mindfulness in kindergarten we would be cultivating a deep awareness that’s much deeper than thinking.  Inside each of us is vast open heartedness, spaciousness – sharing the same space of the world.

It’s simple, not easy.  Exercise the muscle.

Tomorrow morning when you wake up, take a few extra moments in bed lying down and see if you’re fully awake.  Let your mind and your attention scan your body from head into your toes and heels and feel your body being breathed.  Rest in awareness, an awareness that’s so big and so spacious, it’s wakefulness.  These are perfect moments to linger and be fully awake before you get out of bed.

A real mindfulness practice is how you move throughout your day from moment to moment; full presence with others at home and at work. You can have thoughts, just don’t get so attached to them.

We are completely connected with the planet, cycles, and with each other. We are beginning to transfer science from mind/body to larger society and planetary levels. We are these miraculous human beings who don’t know it yet. Find wise ways of being in touch.

Just be present. Just be with and love rather than fix or judge.

There is major research and programs in 4 areas:
1. Healthcare.
2. Education.
3. Business/Corporate.
4. Criminal Justice.

We need a thousand different ways to address issues currently happening in our society.  Consider practicing mindfulness rather than mindlessness.

Let’s not miss out on the most important dimensions of our own life.

Color Your Work Environment for Success

Color Your Work Environment for Success

One measure of our professional state of mind is what I like to call our workday vs. non-workday preference barometer. I define this as one’s level of hope or dread of workdays compared to Saturdays, Sundays, vacation and holidays.

Many of us have had days we weren’t exactly looking forward to, and when we feel stressed or anxious on days we have to be our best professional selves, that more often than not, is an indicator.

Gallup survey last summer found that the “40 Hour Workweek” had grown to 47 hours for most professionals.  What does that mean?  One scenario is that if don’t enjoy our time when we are working, we are spending more than 10 years of our lives unhappy.

Here are a few ideas to consider implementing into your work environment.

Change up the environment

Our physical environments impact our physiology and this affects our thinking and energy flow. Refreshing our office space can inspire creativity and new perspective. A simple yet effective change we can make is to consider a fresh coat of paint on the walls. Colors in our environment play a role in our mood, productivity and job performance. Colors can affect how we feel which impacts how we think and what we, and our teams, are able to accomplish and produce. Check out this guide to choosing the right paint and décor color to support a healthy business.

Let in some natural hues

Living and working in high-rises, driving in our cars, or riding on public transportation are keeping us all cooped up and are limiting our time spent in green spaces and in natural sunlight.  You might consider adding plants to your office space and making a conscious effort to increase your exposure to natural light. If you can’t raise the blinds on the windows or there are none near you, consider taking your lunch on a patio or take regular walks outside. You could also check out your options to having an outdoor meeting once a week and bringing in some plants from this list.

Shades of Strategy

We can often forget to pay attention to what’s driving our business plans even more so than forgetting to notice the color of the walls around us.  Our professional and/or business strategy must be top-of-mind for us and it also needs to include the right mix of what will challenge and inspire us every day. If it’s been a while since you really considered your most important professional goals and how to achieve them, make time to consider if they need to be brightened up a bit.

Our professional lives take up a great deal of our energy and time. Break out a color wheel and your green thumb and help yourself to a colorful world that excites you every day.

Cultivating creativity in 10 minutes

Cultivating creativity in 10 minutes

It’s 8 a.m. on a typical work week. A steaming cup of coffee, tea or boosting breakfast beverage sits nearby like a private, tiny cheering section. You choose your favorite writing utensil and writing pad, or you open your computer and see that each of the programs you need to complete are the projects lined up at the top of your list. You stretch. Rub your face and then stare blankly at the page waiting for creative inspiration to strike you.

Many of us get in the habit of playing a creative hurry-up-and-wait game once or more per week when we sit down at our desks and know that now is the time to bring the best of what we have to offer to our work.

We may enjoy living in a time with fewer boundaries and the ability to create dynamic functions of our own design; however, managing and encouraging creativity can be a personal and professional challenge for each of us.  And we realize that creative thinking is required at every level within companies and organizations.

In my work, I’ve found that creativity is like many talents and skills, the more you understand and practice the better you can leverage your creativity how and when you need it. With time, sharing and exemplifying proven practices with others can also help develop a group of truly creative minds that naturally support each other in a synergistic creative process.

Two important factors that are most likely to influence creativity are our physiology and our state of mind. It may not be a surprise to find that these two factors directly influence each other.

When we find ourselves stalled out problem-solving or generating new ideas, it’s a good indicator that we might need to check-in with our bodies. Our energy might flow better if we step away, take a 5 minute break (this is when MBWA is especially useful!) complete an abbreviated workout, change our posture, etc.

The benefits of changing your physical energy may be just what your mind needs to break into some major new creative thinking or to formulate the last missing piece of your ‘memo’ puzzle.  If not, take 5 minutes to get centered, clear your mind, let go of any attachment, and remember to breathe.  You might also consider putting on music or checking in with a friend or colleague who tends to be uplifting.  ‘Water cooler’ conversations can be a great way to spark creative ideas and flow by the time you’re back at your desk.

Most often these techniques can clear the fog and bring back the creator vibes in 10 minutes or less. You might consider making them a regular practice to help keep the good vibes ever flowing.

If you’re looking for more help to loosen up your creative juices, check out these 7 Types of Creative Blocks and What to do about them.

WANTED:YOU- Immediate Availability to Begin Living Your Best Life

WANTED:YOU- Immediate Availability to Begin Living Your Best Life

These days life seems to come at us faster than ever before. We are expected to make quick decisions, be responsive, and keep up to speed on the ever-increasing amount of information and technology. Yet while we are trying to shave seconds off our schedules, are we missing the big picture?

Our colleges and universities report that 50-70% of students will change their major at least once and most will change 3 times before completing a degree. Even when settling on an area of study and graduating, only 27% will actually have a job in their specific field of study.

There are several key decision points along your career and life path. Connecting with your life’s purpose will help you navigate toward your innermost desires.

Here’s how:

1). Listen to your Gut

It may sound cliché, and the reality is that when something gives you life and more energy, keep moving in that direction. If a person, project or path seems to be draining you, move away from the source. The more you listen to your inner voice and hone in on your true calling, the louder and clearer your purpose will become.

2). Look for Trends

Give your gut a little help by employing some brain power. If you look over the major events in your life when opportunities arose at just the right time, maybe there were common trends and themes that began to emerge? Give these “coincidences” a little more credit, especially when these themes are beginning to align with a successful path towards your purpose.

3). Ask the Universe for What you Want

Meditate on having your purpose revealed to you and stay the course. Express gratitude for each area of learning that you visit. Making this meditative process a part of your routine will keep you close to your purpose every step of the way.

4). Practice makes Purpose

Along with the meditative practice to bring you into harmony with your purpose, a commitment to pursue your purpose ritualistically will ensure that you have a practice of focus for your life’s purpose. This is similar to compounded interest and will grow and multiply over time.

Remember to go back to #1 and stick with what feels right;and don’t let life’s obstacles and challenges get you off course – they’re simply there as part of the game of life.

These steps may have you thinking and generating vibes that will bring you even closer to your purpose. Don’t be surprised if you begin gaining momentum at a surprising rate.